Your first impressions of “The Pleaser” will be delightful. Apparently you have an enjoyable, willing client with whom to work. Such a client will agree with all the programs and beliefs that you are finding, and may even make you feel like you are a genius! If you’re not careful, this “pleaser” client will lead you to believe that you are doing everything perfectly!
When you “come to your senses” you might ask yourself, “If the subconscious cannot lie, why is it agreeing with all my answers?” You may then conclude, “Something’s not right here,” and you would be correct. Three Dimensional Therapy goes much deeper into the psychic than any other energy work, so let’s proceed. In this situation, the subconscious will try and take you on side trips to avoid the painful truth.
However, when you ask the right questions in the right way, you will get the truth you are seeking. We will show you how as we discuss procedure for this type of client.
First, how do you spot a “pleaser?” One of the first clues is that their emotional responses are not appropriate to the programs you are identifying. There is an odd lack of real sorrow, regret, even anger or basically any other emotion in their responses. The client is simply too comfortable going where you are taking them–and is happy to go along.
The second clue is something we have never shared before in our written work, but we decided to share it with you now! Whether you work over Skype or in person, ask the client to open their hands and show them to you. Notice the thumbs on each hand. Does the top of the thumb tend to bend over backwards? Here is the clue: the more it bends, the more the person is eager to please others.
Third, when you suspect you are working with a “pleaser,” ask the subconscious: “Are you trying to please me?” “Are you giving me the answers you think I want to hear?” You will get a yes answer to these questions.
At this point, take the magnet (or other tool you are using) and roll out “I need to please you” (or similar program).
Then install “I am programing your subconscious to give the answers that will take you where you most need to go” (or similar program). When you have determined that you are indeed working with a “pleaser,” another step you should take is to excuse yourself from the session for a moment and strengthen your energy shield. This prevents the client from reading your energy to anticipate the answers you are looking for.
Before continuing to work with this client on other Core Belief Systems, take out the Faulty Core Belief System about pleasing others. Check for an Inherited Faulty Core Belief System also.
The following are some ideas for these systems:
- “If I please you, you will love me.”
- “I have to please others to keep the peace.”
- “I have to know what you want so I can give it to you, then you will _____ (love me, or approve of me, or accept me, or won’t reject me, etc.)
- “I’m only safe when I please you.”
This “pleaser” will bend over backwards, like their thumbs, to please others. This is detrimental to their physical and mental health. They give too much and yet never feel fulfilled. You will do this client a great service by helping them overcome this faulty belief system and replacing it with an empowering one. Incorporate this information and procedure into your practice.